A whole country was lost because people skipped a blessing?
That is how the Gemara reads, and the classic commentators found it as strange as you do. The Bach (Rabbi Yoel Sirkis, Poland, about 400 years ago) asks it straight out: why such a huge punishment for what looks like a small sin?
Rabbeinu Yonah (Spain, 1200s) starts from a detail in the story. The sages and prophets could not explain why the land was destroyed. If people had stopped learning Torah, anyone could have seen that. So they must have been learning all the time. What only God could see, because He knows what is deep in the heart, was that the Torah was not important enough in their eyes to deserve a blessing. His explanation is quoted by the Ran (a Spanish commentator of the 1300s).
The Bach gives his own answer. They learned for what they could get out of it: to know the laws they needed for business, and to show off how smart they were. They were not trying to attach themselves to the holiness of the Torah.
The Mishnah Berurah (a central commentary on daily Jewish law, written around 1900) adds the piece that answers your question. The land was not lost over a blessing alone. There were other sins. As long as people were busy with Torah, God overlooked those sins, which is why the prophets were confused. But they were learning Torah the way people learn any other subject. So it did not protect them.
In each of these readings, the skipped blessing is a sign of something underneath. The Mishnah Berurah's practical advice is short: say this blessing with great joy.
Nedarim 81a,Ran on Nedarim 81a, quoting Rabbeinu Yonah,Bach, Orach Chaim 47,Mishnah Berurah 47:2"Chose us out of all the peoples." Isn't that saying we are better than everyone?
It can sound that way. Read the whole sentence: "who chose us out of all the peoples and gave us His Torah." The Tur (a code of Jewish law from the 1300s) says to think of Mount Sinai when you say it.
At Sinai the Torah uses the same words, mikol ha'amim: "If you listen to My voice and keep My covenant, you will be My treasure out of all the peoples, for all the earth is Mine. And you will be for Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation." It starts with "if."
Sforno (an Italian commentator of the 1500s) explains: all of humankind is precious to God, and "the righteous of the nations of the world are precious to Me without a doubt." What makes Israel a treasure is the job: a kingdom of priests, to understand and teach all of humankind to call on God's name.
The Torah rules out size: "Not because you are more numerous than all the peoples did Hashem want you and choose you, for you are the fewest." The reason it gives next is God's love and His oath to your ancestors. The prophet Amos: "Only you have I known of all the families of the earth. That is why I will hold you to account for all your sins."
About 800 years ago a convert named Ovadiah asked the Rambam (Maimonides) whether he could say "who chose us." The Rambam told him to change nothing: "The Creator has already chosen you." Avraham is the father of every convert, he wrote, and there is no difference at all between us and you.
Not everyone saw it that way. Rabbi Yehuda HaLevi (Spain, about 900 years ago) writes in his book the Kuzari that Israel is called the treasure of humankind, and that a convert shares in its good but is not equal to a born Jew, because only born Jews can become prophets. Rashi says this blessing praises the Jewish people along with the Torah. Most of the sources here tie that praise to a task and a higher standard.
Tur, Orach Chaim 47,Shemot 19:5-6, with Sforno,Devarim 7:7-8,Amos 3:2,Rambam, letter to Ovadiah the convert,Kuzari 1:27 and 1:115,Rashi on Berakhot 11bWhy ask God to make Torah sweet? What if I just find it boring?
The blessing does not pretend. Its first line says we were commanded "to be busy with" Torah, and the Bach (Rabbi Yoel Sirkis, Poland, about 400 years ago) explains that this means effort and hard work. The next line is a request: please make it sweet. People do not ask for what they already have.
Rashi (the classic commentator on the Gemara) explains what we are asking for: that the words of Torah be pleasant to us, so that we are busy with them out of love.
Why does it have to be a request? The Maharal of Prague (Rabbi Yehuda Loew, 1500s) answers that learning is not in a person's hands the way other mitzvot are. Think of it this way: you can decide to pick up a lulav. You cannot decide to understand. It is God, he writes, who turns a person's ability to think into actual understanding. So this mitzvah comes with a request for help, and the blessing ends "who teaches Torah to His people Israel."
Is enjoying it even the point? Some people thought the opposite: if you enjoy learning, you are doing it for yourself, so it counts for less. Rabbi Avraham Bornsztain of Sochatchov, Poland, calls that "a well-known mistake" in the introduction to his book Eglei Tal (1905). "The main part of the mitzvah of learning Torah is to be glad and happy and to enjoy your learning, and then the words of Torah are absorbed into your blood." His one condition: you are learning because it is a mitzvah and enjoying it, not learning only for the fun.
Not everyone puts the weight there. The Taz (Rabbi David HaLevi Segal, Poland, 1600s) writes that Torah lasts only in people who wear themselves out over it, not in people who learn in comfort and never struggle. The blessing holds both sides. The first line is about effort. The second asks for sweetness.
So the blessing does not promise that today's class will be sweet. It asks. And it asks again the next morning.
Berakhot 11b, with Rashi,Bach, Orach Chaim 47,Maharal, Netivot Olam, Netiv HaTorah 7,Eglei Tal, Introduction,Taz, Orach Chaim 47:1